The Ultimate Balancing Act
This life we live is a demanding one! Keeping a balance between your career, your family, and your friends can get overwhelming at times. With the majority of households having both parents working a full-time schedule, it can get complicated to keep everything equal. The important question is though, how do you keep the balance of all of these things? Here are a few tips that have helped me coincide my responsibilities.
Make a list of everything you have to accomplish in a day, a week, and a year, but set realistic goals for yourself. Schedule it all in a planner, on a wall hanging calender, or an online calender, whichever is easiest for you to access on a daily basis. This may seem time consuming while you are doing it, but it will help you remember everything. Therefore, relieving stress because nothing gets forgotten. This is a major key in creating that balance.
You Can't Do It All
Forgive yourself for not always being there for your spouse and children. Just make sure when you are at home with them, you are present in there lives. Put down the phone or the remote, and actually spend time together as a family every evening. Work during your working hours, be as productive as you can, so you can spend more time focusing on your family and friends when you are home. Also, remember that you need to take time for yourself to refocus and regroup from everything you do on a daily basis.
Value Your Time
One of the most important thing I have learned in life is - be present in the moment you are in. As simple as that sounds, it is a powerful thing. Living in the moment makes you remember something as common as a smile from your little boy when you get home or the fragrance of the blooming flowers in your front yard, but they all mean something much bigger. These things may seem small but they all create an emotion therefore creating a memory. If you just coast through life and you don't live these moments, then they are gone forever and there is no way to get them back. Stay present for you, for your family, and enjoy your life.
One person should not be responsible for everything. Divide it out between you and work together to accomplish goals. At home or at work, lean on each other. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Not everything has to be completely fair, but don't strain yourself when you don't have all the answers or time. When you hit a wall, reach out to someone to help you sort your thoughts. If you can't get all the laundry done, ask your spouse to change it a couple times. Also, another side of this is to accept another persons request when they reach out to you. If someone confides in you don't turn them away, help them because someday you may need there help too. The more connections you make the easier it is to ask for help.
No, this doesn't tell you how to do it all, but use it as a reminder of all the things we forget. Keep yourself organized so you can fit everything important in. Absents make the heart grow fonder, but let your loved one know how much they mean to you. Live for these moments even though they may be subtle, they create happiness in life. Reach out to others when you need to, nobody can do everything by themselves. I am guilty of not remembering to do all of this all the time, but I try my best to keep that balance and that is all you can do.